As a parent, when you are new to the chess world you might not know where your position is. Here's a small article to know when to be closer to the game, and when to be further away! There are many occasions in junior chess when I see a parent hovering over a board — sometimes so close that they’re nearer to the pieces than the player themselves! It’s completely natural to feel invested in your child’s game, but it’s important to remember that the game belongs to the children, not the spectators.

If you haven’t yet attended a tournament or competitive match, it’s worth knowing that parents are often required to remain in a separate room. If your child has special requirements, such as anxiety or panic attacks, it’s always best to inform the organiser in advance. In some cases, a parent may be allowed to sit quietly at the side of the room, provided they do not interact with the game in any way.

Children can easily feel intimidated or upset during competitive play. Unlike adults, they haven’t yet been “hardened” by a lifetime of losses in the chess world (I suspect I’m made of concrete by now!). Having someone looming over them can add unnecessary pressure and take away from the enjoyment and fairness of the game.

When parents are permitted to remain in the playing area, they are usually expected to sit well away from the boards. Players themselves may sometimes walk around briefly to view other games, but even this must not distract others. Pointing at boards, leaning in, whispering, or reacting to moves — even unintentionally — can be unsettling. Words might not be clearly heard, but players often know their game is being discussed, which can be especially frustrating if they are already struggling.

Please also be mindful of what you say and how close you are. Comments about a child’s standard, even when not meant harshly, can be deeply discouraging. A single careless remark can put a child off chess for life — and that’s the last thing we want when they might just be the next FIDE Master. By giving juniors space, trust, and encouragement, we allow them to learn, grow, and most importantly, enjoy the game.